Which   would you go for boafowaa orboadiwaa?

The early months of every relationship can feel exciting and effortless. A successful relationship involves efforts and compromise by both partners.

Healthy and long lasting relationships thrive on the building of a good foundation of respect, appreciation, mutual understanding and support.

However, relationships these days have become a business entity where people engage in to make gain personal needs. This is very particular about girls.

In this 21^st century there are two types of ladies in relationships basically in the Ghanaian society. This I term“ boadiwaa” and “boafowaa”. No need to explain these because I am sure we all understand them not as names but in the context it’s been used.Bofowaa girls supports you whiles boadiwaa girls helps you chop the Muller.

Boafowaa girls are ladies, not just ladies but real ones every man should look out for in any relationship being it intimate or casual. Emotional support a spice in a good relationship is what a boafowaa lady offers his man. That is, they accept their man′s differences and don’t insist their needs are met always. Something a boadiwaa girl will never do because she is only interested in what she gets from you regardless your situation.

Whiles a boafowaa girl listens to his man by not interrupting when he is speaking, focusing on what he is saying and not her responses, a boadiwaa girl will not allow his man say a word rather would want to be listened to even if she is talking trash.

Distinguishing between wants and needs is another quality of a boafowaa. She wants bags, shoes, nice hair and all the girly stuff but cool if you don’t always give her those because she can live without them but needs you to love and respects her as she is because she can’t live without you. Sister Boadiwaa also knows wants and needs but in her case she wants Brazilian hair like those of Kim kardashian, shoes from atmosphere and Victoria secrets under wears and can do without you once she has all the wants.

If she pick up fights with you and accepts her responsibilities for her mistakes which i term “fair fighting” then go for her because she is a boafowaa lady not boadiwaa who will always blame you for all the ups and downs in the relationship

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Changes happen in various aspects of life with relationships being no exception. When the table turns and things are no more the same as it were during the initial stages of the relationship a boafowaa girl will  respect the change and stick with you, come out with ideas to make things good but a boadiwaa girl will leave you for another person once things get ugly.

 Whiles a boadiwaa girl will be like “Baby can we order for koko king for breakfast, pizza from Eddy’s pizza for lunch and shrimp rice from Rhapsodies for dinner” Boafowaa goes like baby today am going to cook something delicious for breakfast lunch and dinner”. Boafowaa will at all times want to be your woman and boadiwaa will want to be your chic.

My guys charley you must look sharp and do the choosing well if you haven’t but if you already have which one is she if its boafowaa keep her and treat her like the queen she  is but if its sister boadiwaa then let her go wai.

                         
                                 GOOD ATTITUDE, BETTER LIFE.

Life has numerous elements to both make and unmake it. Having all that life has to offer without a good attitude is worthless.

An attitude is an expression of favour or disfavour toward a person, a place, a thing or an event. Attitudes can also be explicit and implicit. Explicit attitudes are those that we are consciously aware of and that influence our beliefs and behaviour. Implicit attitudes are unconscious but have an effect on our beliefs and behaviour.

This expression of favour or vice versa in the definition don’t just happen in a day or two, rather they are formed gradually or directly  based on a person’s past or present experiences. These experiences may be personal experiences, through observation and based on social roles and social norms.

Personal experiences are moments in one’s life and awareness of both internal and external events i.e. events that we partake in or know which affects both our inner and outer being hence forms a particular attitude in an individual.

Observation, an active look out for events and occurrences in ones environment forms an attitude in a person. A child who witnesses his parents fighting will grow to posses such an attitude through observation.

Attitudes formation cannot be devoid of social roles and social norms. Social roles are the parts we play as individuals in a social group. Each social role a person adopts one way or the other forms a particular attitude in the person to fit the role he or she has adopted. If a person decides to be a leader of a group he adopts leadership attitudes to fit the role he has chosen.

Social norms on the other hand are rules that govern a person’s behaviour in a group or society. These norms include saying“please’’and “thank” you at the appropriate time, helping the elderly when needed just to mention a few.

Not only are attitudes formed but are also learnt. According to research, there are three ways attitudes are learnt and these are classical conditioning where adverts influence ones attitude, operant conditioning where an individual’s attitude may learn an attitude based on positive or negative feedback and observing the people round them.

 John Maxwell said something about attitude which i find very interesting and vital. He said “attitude is the“ advance man” of our true selves. Its roots are in ward but its fruits are outward. It is our best friend or our worst enemy. It is more honest and more consistence than are words. It is the thing which draws people to us or repels them. It is never content until it is expressed. It is the librarian of our past and speaker of our present. It is the prophet of our future”. Based on this i strongly belief a good attitude is all one needs aside God to be a better person in life. Once you have this all the other elements come with it automatically.

Having a good attitude have various impacts on one’s life. A good attitude colour everything you do, say and think. It can also make you accomplish your goals and overcome your setbacks.

A good attitude also affects those around so much that it helps build a good and cordial relationship between you and those around you. It also enables you to relate well with people at the various social classes in the society.

Charles Swindwill said “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it”. For a better life respond to events with good attitudes. A bad attitude only destroys your life and that of those around you. Remember people will remember you mostly for how you made them feel.